I met a nice guy this past weekend. Nothing too hot or heavy, but it already brings up a few interesting issues.
First, even though he's pretty buff, he likes larger women. I saw the woman he was last dating, and she's quite a bit bigger than I am. He actually likes me at my size NOW, but I intend to lose about 50 more pounds.
This is one heck of a change from my marriage, where my husband never accepted me at my heavier weight. On the flip side, this guy likes me where I am, but I don't. In some ways it would be nice to be able to stop where I am and simply be accepted, but that's not good enough for me. Not anymore.
How odd that I would go from one extreme to the other? But the fact is that no matter what path my life takes, I have to stay true to me and my health and goals.
Secondly, I find myself having to decide what to share with a new person who seems interested. How do you do this? I DID tell him about losing nearly 100 pounds, and he never blinked. Tonight I mentioned something about having trouble eating enough calories when I'm working out hard, and he asked if I had surgery. I just brushed over that question and didn't answer.
He cheered me on Saturday (via text) when I did my 5K. His support was amazing, and it's something I haven't had in ages. He texted this to me:
It actually made me very happy that you made such a big accomplishment in losing weight and getting yourself in shape. Thought it was cool that you were running in your first 5k. Even though we only recently met, I am genuinely proud of you.I was shocked. I never got support like that from the man I was with and married to for 20 years! Even the day of the race, I got no type of support or encouragement from him like what this guy said.
It's all very nice, but he'd better be okay with me continuing on my weight-loss journey if things are going to go anywhere.