tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496698320920768554.post8886542033456398784..comments2023-07-23T11:52:41.300-04:00Comments on Who Hid the Donuts?: Weight-Loss Surgery: Accepting Your New Life and BodyBethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04709345711323446312noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496698320920768554.post-52156259824931715792009-10-23T19:24:19.867-04:002009-10-23T19:24:19.867-04:00Thanks Beth. I really appreciate your comments.Thanks Beth. I really appreciate your comments.mcscrewdriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17923711294108476181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496698320920768554.post-44492081409178002282009-10-23T16:46:17.645-04:002009-10-23T16:46:17.645-04:00By the way, congrats and good luck with your surge...By the way, congrats and good luck with your surgery!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04709345711323446312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496698320920768554.post-1397857189001325272009-10-23T16:43:41.587-04:002009-10-23T16:43:41.587-04:00I think people needed to lay off Star Jones. I do...I think people needed to lay off Star Jones. I don't like her much from what I've seen, but I felt she was very mistreated over her weight loss. Some act as if, being in the public eye, she owed something to people. She didn't. What if she had cancer? Should she have been forced to out herself then? What about AIDS? But somehow, WLS seems to be fair game.<br /><br />I don't expect any of us to suffer the types of judgments that she did because we're not in the public eye. And though I don't know much about the sleeve, I would guess you would still be required (or it would be suggested) that you exercise and eat right. All anybody needs to know is that you're taking care of yourself -- which IS true.<br /><br />I had a boss who was really going at me, asking if I had had bypass right after my band. I was appalled that she would be so direct, but I told the truth -- I DID NOT have bypass. ;) But still, it really IS nobody's business. I understand your concern, though. We go through these things near the time of our surgeries. But remember, right now is not the time to worry about others -- just take care of YOURSELF (and for some of us, it's the first time we've done it) and heal well, recover quickly, and start working towards the new you. As time goes on, you MAY decide to tell a person here or there; but if you don't, that's okay too. <br /><br />People don't have a RIGHT to know any more about you than you're willing to tell, no matter the topic.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04709345711323446312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496698320920768554.post-35644525425335139852009-10-23T16:33:29.780-04:002009-10-23T16:33:29.780-04:00Remember how everyone turned against Starr Jones w...Remember how everyone turned against Starr Jones when she didn't disclose her gastric surgery? I don't plan to lie to anyone..but I don't want the judgement or comments..Is it really OK to not tell? Why is this my biggest concern 5 days away from surgery?mcscrewdriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17923711294108476181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496698320920768554.post-85001852276123914222009-10-23T16:21:40.931-04:002009-10-23T16:21:40.931-04:00I think whatever makes YOU most comfortable is the...I think whatever makes YOU most comfortable is the way you should go. There is nothing wrong with you at all! Some people are open books. I consider myself a pretty open book, but I have kept this VERY close to the vest. Why? Probably the same concern about judgments. Like now... I've been stalled out for months. Do I want everybody and their brother breathing down my neck or paying attention to every little thing that I do? NO! It's really nobody's business.<br /><br />Would you tell everybody if you had a hysterectomy or a scope snaked up your rectum? I wouldn't. It's really nobody's business at all. My own parents didn't know until well after I had done it -- and the only reason I did was that my mom was afraid something was wrong with me health-wise.<br /><br />Do what you feel comfortable with. You only owe yourself, not anybody else.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04709345711323446312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496698320920768554.post-54554377035740969632009-10-23T16:12:23.875-04:002009-10-23T16:12:23.875-04:00hey, I'm having gastric sleeve surgery in 5 da...hey, I'm having gastric sleeve surgery in 5 days. What does it say about me that I don't want anyone to know? I'm only telling my spouse and my BFF. I'm not telling my teenaged kids because they might tell their friends then "the moms" would find out. I feel like there would be so much judgement. What's wrong with me?mcscrewdriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17923711294108476181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496698320920768554.post-70971562494059792932009-10-06T10:08:51.764-04:002009-10-06T10:08:51.764-04:00Yeah, I'm on the fence myself. Some of my fam...Yeah, I'm on the fence myself. Some of my family didn't find out until many months after I had surgery. Other acquaintances don't know. Recently, though, a neighbor and her sister asked how I lost weight and I told them (both are overweight). It's kinda hit and miss for me.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04709345711323446312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496698320920768554.post-37932622854678020352009-10-06T07:09:00.467-04:002009-10-06T07:09:00.467-04:00So much good information here - especially the one...So much good information here - especially the one about telling people how you lost weight - I still haven't figured that one out. I certainly haven't told everybody (and a couple of people found out through others.. not ideal!)THE DASH!https://www.blogger.com/profile/08658679261310931377noreply@blogger.com